“Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure... than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.”
It’s all about Perspective
The best life view that I’ve developed is that everything happens for a reason and every single event that happens in my life was specifically placed there in order to teach me a lesson that will be vital to ultimately revealing my life purpose. That being said, life isn’t always sunshine and rainbows, and I often feel like I’m being kicked while I’m down. In the end, though, it seems that even dark moments have a silver lining if viewed from a positive perspective.
Bounce back instead of Accepting Defeat
After going through a failure, the easiest path is to just accept it, ignore it, and move on with your life. This is a great way to learn nothing and set yourself up for continuous failure. Though it can be difficult and frustrating to review failed work, it’s the best way to learn and correct mistakes. Look and see what pieces worked and what didn’t. Dig into the parts that didn’t work and look for help or a creative new way to approach it.
Understand Failure is a Teacher
Each time you fail and review the work, you learn one more way not to approach a problem and perhaps fragments that did work. Malcom Gladwell said that in order to become an expert in a field, it takes 10,000 hours of focus and practice. With a typical work week, that would take over 5 years! The reason it takes so long to master a task is that you have to learn every way not to do something in order to find the perfect way to do something.
Understand Long Term Effects
Just because someone fails often doesn’t make them a failure. Throughout his journey, Donald Trump has gone billions of dollars in debt and declared bankruptcy 3 times. Yet, his name is synonymous with success. So even though it can be embarrassing and demoralizing to step out of your comfort zone, think of the long term effects and end result. That’s all people remember anyway.
Failure creates new Opportunities
We don’t always make the correct choices the first time around. Failure can turn us around and put us on a path toward more success and happiness than we were ever planning. Failed relationships will ultimately shift many to the person they will marry. Failed classes can push a student toward a major they are more passionate about. Failed jobs push many entrepreneurs to start their own company and find their own success.